“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.“
—Joseph Campbell
Why does nothing you do ever feel like it’s enough?
You’ve given all you got to being a good mother, loving partner, devoted daughter, high-achieving professional, and all-around decent human being. Yet somehow, you still feel like you’re falling short. There’s a voice in your head that keeps saying you need to do better. And no matter what you accomplish, it never feels like it’s enough.
You push yourself to do more, be more, achieve more, but the goalposts keep moving. You go to the gym, read the self-help books, track your habits, and try to stay grateful. But the exhaustion is real, and that critical inner voice only gets louder. You’re tired of fighting yourself every single day, wondering if you’ll ever know what it means to be happy. Why does everyone else have it figured out while you’re barely hanging on?
Sweetheart, here’s what you need to know: the problem isn’t that you’re not trying hard enough. The problem is you’re trying to win a game that can’t be won.
The Real Power Move is Learning to Love Yourself
What if you’re not broken? What if you don’t need to be fixed, hacked, upgraded, optimized, or transformed? What if the real power move is learning to love yourself?
Self-love isn’t about bubble baths, face masks, scented candles, and chasing good vibes. It’s about unlearning the lie of having to earn your worth, and it begins with developing an embodied awareness of the present moment—one that’s rooted in genuine kindness toward yourself. It’s about learning to treat yourself like a cherished friend, especially when life gets messy or you make mistakes. And it’s about discovering the peace you’ve been chasing isn’t found by being perfect, but by accepting yourself completely.
Loving yourself changes everything—how you show up in relationships, how you navigate challenges, how you make decisions, and how you move through the world. It’s the difference between surviving your life and actually living it.
At An Unabridged Mind, you’ll find insights and tools to make self-love a daily practice, learn how to cultivate mindfulness as embodied and benevolent awareness, and discover how to find peace in the life you’re already living.
Ev Nittel
Hi there, I’m Ev Nittel, the founder of An Unabridged Mind. I’m a mindfulness teacher, writer, self-love advocate, and recovering perfectionist. I offer insights, practices, and tools to women who are tired of feeling like they’re never enough. My approach centres on teaching mindfulness as an embodied practice and self-love as a skill that can be learned. Curious? Let’s connect!
Mindfulness teacher
Mediation guide
Self-love advocate
Nature enthusiast
Trauma survivor
Work in progress
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